Off with the old

Ok, I might be confusing some people. I wrote last week about my wedding anniversary - mostly noteworthy for occuring on 29 Feb therefore only happening with infrequency - and though I am still legally married I have been separated for over a year. I have been "with" someone else and that has come to an end with a predictable round of rancour and acrimony. And this has been our pattern for 20 years since we first met in grad school. It's a more off than on thing. It made me very happy last year and it has made me very confused for the past two months. Litany of problems - we live 8000 miles and 16 hours time difference apart, health and money problems, ingrained patters of behaviour on both sides that were too much for the easiness we had in being together. Enough's enough.

Comments

[shannita]

And I was just complaining about being thousands of miles and 4 hours time difference from the huz. I should stop complaining. But I completely understand the feeling of enough is enough. That is actually how I'm feeling these days about my situation.

[stef]

i can't say i understand what you are going through fully but i was in a long term relationship that became long distance and then it just didn't work anymore. i believe you will do what feels right for you.

[AG]

Thanks for your kind thoughts. The rounds of recrimination and blame is diminishing but it still sucks my soul dry.